Every day you are faced with decisions, some small and inconsequential, some huge and potentially life-altering. Every day you are forced to consider the pros and cons of every dilemma and act based on what you believe is best for you, your future, and those around you. Every day you make choices with your best interest at heart, and hope that every decision propels you into a better place. Every day you grow, and you learn more about yourself and what you want. You figure out what makes your blood pump and your heart sing, and you do it.
So, at what age are you allowed to decide what’s best for yourself? At what age do you really know?
Surely, you must know yourself better than anyone else. You’ve lived with yourself your entire life. You’ve explored the dark crevices of your mind, you’ve tested all of your boundaries, invoked and experienced all of your emotions. You know what makes your heart race and your cells dance. You know what causes that sharp pain in your chest, and you know what can take every inch of air left in your lungs in a split second. You’ve experienced that moment of breathtaking euphoria, and you’ve experienced that moment of overwhelming hopelessness. Some nights your soul was tired and wretched and consumed with all the pain in the world, and some nights your energy levels inexplicably sky-rocketed and a feeling of invincibility dominated your thoughts. You’ve experienced all of this, so it’s only right that you get to decide what’s best for yourself.
Some decisions will stay with you forever. People will tell you to make a calculated decision, one that will benefit you in the future. They’ll tell you that this is good for you and that is good for you. And sure, there are times when they will be right. There are times when they will know. But more often than not, it will be your own inclinations that lead you to the right path. It will be a gut feeling, a little voice, a heart’s desire that will push you to where you need and want to be. It could be an ethereal figure; God, your guardian angel, whatever you want to believe, that is guiding you. But it is always within you, to know what is best for you, to know what will make you happy at the beginning and end of each and every day you are alive.
This life is meant to beautiful and exciting. You have the right to feel and experience all of the incredible things in the world. You have the right to wake up every day and be happy to be alive. There are things you will have to do that may not be easy, or even fun for that matter, but as long as it ultimately leads to something that will ignite a fire within your heart, it’s worth it. There is nothing more fulfilling than working for something you’re passionate about, something you truly want. And there is nothing more fulfilling than being present and enjoying every moment you are working for it. Make sure to do something every day that takes your breath away; watch the sun rise and set, run into the freezing ocean with someone you love, go on a hike with beautiful scenery, go cliff-jumping into a lake. Work for what you want, but also do what you want.
Your thoughts are valid. Your feelings are valid. You know what will make you happy. So do it.